For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, says the Lord. For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways, and my thoughts than your thoughts.When God works in our lives we will not understand. In fact, we are not capable of understanding. But what we must do is follow Him and give Him the glory.
To my friends currently in the adoption process and to everyone else try to see the what is happening in your life as the work of God. Include in this the little things. It is easy to see God in the big stuff but I think we learn the most from the little stuff. Paul told the people at the church in Corinth to "So whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God."